Modern Gentleman

Mark Merrill lists eight things that he believes every father should teach his son:

1. Be a gentleman.
2. Honour parents.
3. Respect women.
4. Have integrity.
5. Be responsible.
6. Work hard.
7. Love others.
8. Love God.

Would you agree with his list?  Why or why not?  How about the order?

(Personally, I think that "love God" should be #1, and "love others" should be #2.  My reason is Jesus' words in Matthew 22:36-40.  I think Mark's other points are relevant also, but those two points should come first.  The other six points are kind of contained within these two, but the specific application to gentlemen need to be taught.)

Should all men be gentlemen?  What do women expect?  What does society expect?

Many say that chivalry is dead.  Sometimes they say this jokingly.  Sometimes they say this lamenting the good old days when men were more gentlemanly.  But John Picciuto points out that women's expectations have changed also.  No longer do they expect to be invited out to dinner or for men to get to know them deeply in this age of 140-character sms and tweets.  So when men are being nice, they can be easily misunderstood as being interested in a big way.

Do you think so?

How can we avoid such misunderstandings these days?  Shouldn't men be chivalrous anymore?

What do you think?  Why?